Dear Hearts, I can't stress this enough. You MUST have basic party prep finished before guests arrive. My best suggestion is have your best friend over to 1/2 hour earlier to help set up. I have been to parties where I am the one setting up, while the host is busy greeting guests. See, greeting your guests must be a priority, however, if you are not yet ready....? Well, you see the dilemma.
7 days before: Intensive house cleaning - scrub baseboards, ceiling fans, hand wash floors.
3 days before: Prepare food list, grocery list and to-do list.
2 days before: Get out all the serving dishes you will use and wash them and place them on dining room table for easy access.
1 day before: All shopping must be finished by this day! The rest of the day should be spent making the dishes that can be made in advance and beginning set up.
Day of: Spot cleaning and finish all prep, including assigning jobs to helpful friends and kids.
By the time your guests arrive, your main job should be filling drinks, seeing that no empty dish is ever left on a table, (My personal pet peeve, I'm a nazi about that.) and chatting. Also, and this is absolute must. Please see that everyone is introduced to one another. Don't invite a houseful of guests that don't know each other and leave them to shuffle around awkwardly until the liquor kicks in.
Don't freak out if you are not perfect. I've made each of these mistakes and that is how I learned for the next time! But do learn from them.
Last tip: Keep Celebrating!
Sunday, March 31, 2013
Friday, March 8, 2013
Etiquette Lesson
Today, as your 19th Century Lady was driving to the library, (I'm so old-fashioned, I read actual books), I happened to be passed by a funeral procession. I pulled over my vehicle and reflected calmly on the ephemeral nature of human life. As I watched and waited, I noticed that a car across from me was also waiting. Waiting impatiently to get out of a parking lot. So impatiently that the minute there was the slightest opening, this car darted through it and went on it's way.
I was a bit surprised at that lack of decorum, however, then I realized that perhaps many people just do not know the basic etiquette that is part of such an event. I don't think funeral processions are as common as they were back in my day. My husband chose not to have them for his parents, because many years ago a family member taking part in one, had a fatal accident and upon checking the news, I find that such tragedies are happening more often. Due in part, I believe, to ignorance of the rules regarding such processions. So for your edification, I present:
Etiquette for Funeral Processions
1.) Avoid breaking in to a funeral procession.
This is because very often family comes from out of town and you do not want to get in between someone who may be unfamiliar with the area and may get lost.
2.) Don't honk or try to break up a procession when a funeral procession is running a red light.
It is legal for processions to go through the traffic lights. You won't be that inconvenienced if you need to sit through one light. Be polite and respectful. It's the very least you can do for a grieving family.
3.) Pull over if possible.
It has long been considered respectful to pull over. I do this when driving on a smaller street. As we live in a rather big city, it is almost rude to other drivers to do this in all cases, but when possible, please try to do this.
Please understand that I do not live in Miss Manners rarefied world of the upper class, but merely am a day to day old fashioned lady trying to bring gracious living to a reality show millennium.
I was a bit surprised at that lack of decorum, however, then I realized that perhaps many people just do not know the basic etiquette that is part of such an event. I don't think funeral processions are as common as they were back in my day. My husband chose not to have them for his parents, because many years ago a family member taking part in one, had a fatal accident and upon checking the news, I find that such tragedies are happening more often. Due in part, I believe, to ignorance of the rules regarding such processions. So for your edification, I present:
Etiquette for Funeral Processions
1.) Avoid breaking in to a funeral procession.
This is because very often family comes from out of town and you do not want to get in between someone who may be unfamiliar with the area and may get lost.
2.) Don't honk or try to break up a procession when a funeral procession is running a red light.
It is legal for processions to go through the traffic lights. You won't be that inconvenienced if you need to sit through one light. Be polite and respectful. It's the very least you can do for a grieving family.
3.) Pull over if possible.
It has long been considered respectful to pull over. I do this when driving on a smaller street. As we live in a rather big city, it is almost rude to other drivers to do this in all cases, but when possible, please try to do this.
Please understand that I do not live in Miss Manners rarefied world of the upper class, but merely am a day to day old fashioned lady trying to bring gracious living to a reality show millennium.
Thursday, January 24, 2013
Enough with the Pity Party, Sweepers!
See, occasionally a blog contest will ask you to leave a comment about what you'd do if you won a cash prize of a varying amount. I usually say, vacation or new gadget or even luxury coffees. However, invariably some sad sack will state,
"Buy food for my three children" "Buy clothing for my adopted children" "My husband is out of work, we have 8 children, a blind parrot and I have a terrible rash and I need to buy ointment." (okay, I made that last one up, but wait...you'll see it eventually.)
I think people do this because they think they will play the pity card, but a random computer generated pick does not care that your mother-in-law feeds orphan squirrels and needs nut money.
On a side note, end your comments with "Thank you". I do that because my daughter has done giveaways on her blog and they are work. Be polite. It's not going to help you win, but it helps you look like a decent human being, something in short supply from this 19th Century Lady's point of view.
When you win, put a nice comment back up on the blog and then
Keep Celebrating!
Monday, January 14, 2013
Clean Your House.
Okay, I don't vacuum EVERY day, but I do take pride in my housekeeping skills. I wish I could tell you that she is a working mom, and just has no time to clean, but nope. Not only is she a full time mom, like the rest of the home schools, she isn't really a home schooler. She unschools. I know some that really make that work, but it's not working in this case.
Look, in order to have a stress free live, you must have clean, comfortable surroundings. I think I mentioned in an earlier post that I was an Organizer. I believe it is innate in me to keep things neat. It may not be natural for all of you, but it certainly doesn't help, when peers ridicule you for trying to bring order to your home.
Cleaning is not stupid women's work. It is a noble thing to want to keep your family stress-free and happy. So pick up that dust cloth, put on your favorite music and be proud of yourself! Afterwards, the house will look so lovely, you'll want to invite a few friends over so you can....
Keep Celebrating!
Monday, January 7, 2013
Chicken Stew with Parsley Dumplings
Oh, the nights are long and cold. We need comfort food and this recipe from William-Sonoma will satisfy the family on the coldest of nights. I have to make a triple batch of dumpling for my dear ones.
Ingredients
| 4 lbs whole chicken leg | |
| 6 | cups chicken stock |
| 3 | celery stocks |
| 4 | carrots, peeled |
| 2 | russet potatoes, peeled |
| 1 | onion |
| 1 | tomato, cored and chopped |
| Salt and Pepper | |
| For the Dumplings: | |
| 1 | egg |
| 2 | T water |
| Dash of Paprika | |
| Dash of Cayenne | |
| 1 | tsp butter, melted |
| salt | |
| ¾ | cup A/P flour |
| 1 | tsp baking powder |
| 2 | T flat-leaf parsley + a little for garnish |
Place the chicken pieces in a deep, heavy pot and add the stock. Bring to a boil over high heat, then reduce the heat to a simmer. Skin any froth and scum that forms on the surface. Coarsely chop the vegetables and add them to the pot. Simmer gently for 15 minutes, then season to taste with salt and pepper. Lift out the vegetables with a slotted spoon and place in a food processor fitted with the metal blade. Process to form a thick puree. Stir the puree back into the pot with the chicken and simmer for about 10 minutes longer while making the dumplings.
In a mixing bowl stir together the egg, water, paprika, cayenne, and melted butter. Season with salt. In another bowl, mix together the flour and baking powder, then stir into the egg mixture to form a thick, smooth batter. Stir in the parsley.
Using a large tablespoon drop the dumplings into the simmering stew. Cover the pot and simmer without raising the lid for 15 minutes. Lift out a dumpling to test to see if it is cooked. If it is still floury, re-cover and let cook 3-4 minutes longer.
Sunday, January 6, 2013
10th Century Lady?
Oh, my old-fashioned friends, is there any greater pleasure than reading? I was ever so fortunate to receive many books for Christmas along with a few gift cards for book stores. I hope you were just as lucky!
I enjoy the tactile feel of a new book and the nice smell when you open it. I love the atmosphere of a good used book store....all musty and full of information I have yet to discover. Now, your 19th century lady has a confession to make...I own a Kindle Fire. Yes, I do enjoy it. It is very useful when I am waiting for the children at one of their events. I used to have to consider what book to take with me and now...I just take them all in one small electronic device that fits in my pocketbook.
What do you like to read? Right now, I am enjoying a history of England by Peter Ackroyd and to accompany that, I am reading a non-fiction book by Edward Rutherford by the name of Sarum. I am seriously fascinated by the Anglo-Saxon time period, so much that I am teaching myself Old English! Perhaps I shall have to retitle my blog "10th Century Lady" someday!
I do hope that all of you have enjoyed your holidays and I hope that you, above all,
Keep Celebrating!
What do you like to read? Right now, I am enjoying a history of England by Peter Ackroyd and to accompany that, I am reading a non-fiction book by Edward Rutherford by the name of Sarum. I am seriously fascinated by the Anglo-Saxon time period, so much that I am teaching myself Old English! Perhaps I shall have to retitle my blog "10th Century Lady" someday!
I do hope that all of you have enjoyed your holidays and I hope that you, above all,
Keep Celebrating!
Thursday, December 27, 2012
Afternoon Hosting.
I was fortunate enough to be invited to a delightful get-together this afternoon! How wonderful it was to sit and chat informally with friends, while our children played in another room.
I think that afternoon hosting may be just the thing for those of you who are, perhaps, intimidated by a big evening event! May I offer a few ideas? I'd love to think that someone would consider a party, simply because it would seem so fun and inexpensive! No liquor bill!!
First, keep your guest list small. That is tricky for me, because I want to invite the whole world! However, for an afternoon lunch, it's better to have just a few close friends. Keeping in mind, however, that invariably someone will cancel at the last minute, which leads me to my next tip.
If you have guests contribute food to the meal, be sure that it will not be a necessary part of that meal. When they ask what to bring, suggest salads, desserts or appetizers that would not be missed if the guest must cancel.
No fussy food - this is such a plus!! You can have sandwiches or bread puddings or frittatas. Such fun!!!! You could do a light dessert table or simply finger snacks! As for beverages, coffee, tea or soft drinks will fit the bill perfectly!
Don't plan for a long afternoon. These events tend to be no longer than 2-3 hours at the most. You will have your whole evening ahead to do whatever you wish!
Benefits of such events include: quick and easy cleanup, chance to actually visit with your guests and low cost of food and drinks.
So get out the plastic utensils and have a few friends over for omelets!!! And remember,
Keep Celebrating!
I think that afternoon hosting may be just the thing for those of you who are, perhaps, intimidated by a big evening event! May I offer a few ideas? I'd love to think that someone would consider a party, simply because it would seem so fun and inexpensive! No liquor bill!!
First, keep your guest list small. That is tricky for me, because I want to invite the whole world! However, for an afternoon lunch, it's better to have just a few close friends. Keeping in mind, however, that invariably someone will cancel at the last minute, which leads me to my next tip.
No fussy food - this is such a plus!! You can have sandwiches or bread puddings or frittatas. Such fun!!!! You could do a light dessert table or simply finger snacks! As for beverages, coffee, tea or soft drinks will fit the bill perfectly!
Don't plan for a long afternoon. These events tend to be no longer than 2-3 hours at the most. You will have your whole evening ahead to do whatever you wish!
Benefits of such events include: quick and easy cleanup, chance to actually visit with your guests and low cost of food and drinks.
So get out the plastic utensils and have a few friends over for omelets!!! And remember,
Keep Celebrating!
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